The Ever After

Last post I dedicated to Kestrel's birth story--now for what's been going on since then.

Frankly, it's been pretty rough since Kestrel made her debut into the world, but in her defense, it has not been her fault at all. I can't really imagine a much happier, contented, easy baby. She's five, almost six weeks old now--what should be the peak of fussiness for a baby. She sleeps well, only waking once or twice to eat, nurses amazingly, and has never fussed without me being able to figure out what she was trying to communicate within minutes. Seriously, an easy kid.

When awake, she is generally content to play on the floor or in her swing, where she will often drop off to sleep on her own. If she gets fussy there, I snug her up in our Mei Tai or wrap. If she is overtired, sometimes we have to put on some music to help calm her, but that's about the extent of her woes.

The problem has been with the rest of us. We have had a grand total of one (1) weekend since she was born that we have not been sick. The first week, Tiernan had a sore throat. For the second and third weeks, Robert and I had it. We were gearing up for a fun Labor Day weekend when I developed mastitis, and instead spent it battling a fever of up to 104.5 for two or three days. By the time I was recovered enough to attempt a social outing, we arrived only to have Tiernan throw up in the parking lot as we got out of the car. So we got back in and went home to quarantine ourselves yet again and care for Tiernan as he threw up over and over. Robert came down with the virus two days later. Miraculously enough, I seemed to be being spared--two, three, four days passed after Robert had it, and I still hadn't contracted it. I planned a couple fun events for Saturday, eager to finally be with people again.

Friday night, it hit. At that point, it was beginning to feel like some conspiracy to keep us from ever having fun again.

Thankfully, it was a 24-hour bug, so by Sunday I was feeling mostly back to normal...but unfortunately, with stomach viruses, you can stay contagious for a long time after you feel better, so we're still holed up here, hoping and praying that Kestrel doesn't get it--at her age, it'll be a far more serious case if she does.

As far as how we are adjusting to having two kids, it's been mixed. In addition to Kestrel being a superb baby, Tiernan is a great brother. He loves to 'hold' her, give her kisses, stroke her hair, and play with her. He's very attentive to what she is doing, giving us status updates every time she moves, hiccups, opens her eyes, etc. ("Baby wake!" "Baby sleeping." "Baby moving!" "Baby sad.") The closest thing to jealousy I've seen is when he gets upset and wants me to hold him when I'm already holding Kestrel, he suggests where I should set down the baby so that I can attend to him. Not bad.

Practicing swaddling.
I suppose we should get him a baby doll so he doesn't need to use blocks.

However, as many of you know, Tiernan is a confirmed extrovert. So, naturally, our extended confinement has given him a wretched case of cabin fever, the symptoms of which include being exceedingly volatile and weepy, a strong urge to rebel and test everything, and general disagreeableness. It's certainly been enough to drive me crazy on more than a few days. We're having difficulty finding effective methods of discipline for him, not to mention outlets for his incredible reserve of energy.

Staying at home drives Tiernan up the wall...

We have our good days and our bad days. Days when I feel hopeful and excited about our new and improved little family, and days when I feel overwhelmed and like I'll never get the hang of things. At this point, I just want to be able to establish a rhythm and way of life that doesn't include being holed up at home week after week. Back in June or July I became very passionate about getting fit and active--rather pointless, given I was on bedrest at the time. The good thing is that I still want to, and as of this week, it should be safe for me to begin taking up more active hobbies. I've already begun slacklining most mornings, walking, and intend to begin rock climbing as a habit soon. I have other ideas, such as taking up yoga, jump rope, and fire dancing. Perhaps once I've brought my body back from its atrophied state after so much bed rest I'll take up parkour, capoeira, or, if I'm really daring (and have lots of money) aerial silk. If you have interest in joining me, I'm looking to do any or all of it socially--I much prefer doing those sorts of things with people.

Tiernan learning how to slackline, with a bit of help.

Kestrel's Birth

I had a baby!

Kestrel Tessa was (finally) born on August 11, 2011 at 5:45 AM, one week overdue. By that time, I was massive--the questions in the grocery store changed from "When are you due?" to "Are you having twins?" I'd gained 40 lbs, and it was almost all belly. By the time the due date came and went, I was feeling pretty surly about the fact that I was still pregnant. I was convinced that I was going to be the one woman who stayed pregnant forever.

40 Week Belly/Family Pic

But she did come. Contractions picked up in intensity at noon on Wednesday. We checked into the birthing center at 9:45 that night. I was rather hoping we'd be pretty far along at that point, but we had just reached 4-5 cm, marking the beginning of active labor.

Checking into the birthing center

It was, well, labor. As far as labors go, it went really well. It tended to progress more slowly than I thought it should be, but then that probably tends to be the case. The hardest part was when I began getting the urge to push when I was only 7 cm. Pushing at that point could damage the cervix, causing lots of problems, so I had to spend two hours denying that urge--one of the hardest things I've done. Not  the most painful part of labor, but definitely the hardest.

This, my friends, is one of the primary reasons we have had both of our children at the Austin Area Birthing Center. Neither of them were actually born in the water (not that I would have minded) but it is sooooo good for laboring. Their showers are spectacular, too. As far as I know, they are the only place in Austin that has birthing tubs.

Okay, so this one is a bit more accurate. The first one was in between contractions. I have to say, Robert has got to be the best labor support ever. He really is amazing.

Finally, at 4:00, the midwife gave me the go ahead to start to push--don't think it happens often, but transition actually felt good, at least for a while. An hour and a half later, she finally made it out.

All told, we had about 10 hours of early labor and a full 8 hours of active labor. Long, but significantly shorter than the 24 hours of active labor we had with Tiernan.

Another surprise was her weight--Tiernan was 8lbs 12.5 oz, a big baby. We knew she was big, but since girls tend to be smaller at birth, I still expected her to be closer to 8lbs. Wrong. She weighed in at 9lbs 8oz...which would account for the second degree tear she gave me.

She came out knowing exactly what to do--she and I had nursing down pat within the first hour, without any help or problems. She was very alert for three hours before starting to doze.

We got home around lunch time the same day to introduce Tiernan to his new sister. He was fascinated. When he said her name it sounded more like 'Baby Cashew' than 'Baby Kestrel', and although his pronunciation has improved since then, we still refer to her with some nutty references occasionally. 

Our first week with Kestrel was so much easier than we had with Tiernan. Breastfeeding was a breeze, with no pain, no problems at all--I didn't know it could be as easy as it was. She got her days and nights sorted out within days, to the point that the hardest thing was getting her to wake up to nurse at the maximum time we were supposed to let her go in between feeding. The other difference was that with the stitches, the midwife recommended that I stay on bed rest for the first week, sit rest for the second week, so I had to stay pretty inactive. True to what she said, the rest of postpartum recovery has gone very well for having taken that time to heal.

Adventure 5:11 :: Pedernales Falls

I was itching to get out of town to the outdoors, but between being 7 months pregnant and highs in the 90s, camping--or even an afternoon picnic--doesn't sound like fun. My solution: a breakfast picnic.

We chose a state park that was relatively close--Pedernales Falls is only an hour drive from our house. We chose Monday, Memorial Day, because we guessed that most of the people camping would be busy packing up their tents, leaving the river to us. We packed our bags the night before, then got up before dawn, leaving the house at 6:00 am. Tiernan slept almost the whole way, and when we arrived at 7:00, the sun was just up, the morning was cool, and the river virtually deserted.

There on the shore, we ate our breakfast of banana muffins and fruit.

Tiernan was ecstatic. 

The entertainment of choice was throwing rocks into the water to make splashes, exploring, and playing in the sand.

Parts of the falls reminded me a lot of Johnson's Shut-Ins, one of my favorite parks in Missouri.

Near the falls is a spring pouring out from underneath the roots of a tree. It was a beautiful spot, so full of life.

The view from the overlook, on our way back up.

Swimming is not allowed in the falls, so we headed to the area downstream that is open for swimming.

We played for a few hours in the shallows.

Mid-morning snack on the bank.

Although people were beginning to explore the falls, this part of the river was empty until later in the morning.

More play!

He wasn't so sure about deeper water.

After swimming, we ate a quick lunch and headed home, getting back as the heat was picking up.

For more pictures, you can see the full web album.  

Works of a Free Spirit

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News, Fire Dancing, and Slacklining

I apologize for the long neglect. We've been doing lots of exciting things which I would love to blog about, and perhaps I will be able to catch up on some of the highlights soon. But I shall reserve this post for more current news and big things that have happened.

In case you haven't heard from other venues, we are expecting Baby Szalapski #2 to arrive in early August. The kiddos will be just a couple weeks shy of being exactly two years apart. I am now 12 weeks along, putting me on the brink of the second trimester, which means I have a bit of energy back, a little less nausea, and horrible heartburn. I've had to cut all red meats from my diet...I expect poultry and cheese will have to go within the next couple months. It did last time, anyway. This round I did not crave watermelon, but strawberries and cherries have both taken a turn.

We began the year with a wonderful few weeks with my sister, Zhenya. One of the many things that I love about Zhen is how she inspires me to be a little crazier, a little more fun, and to be more creative and less...well, boring. She had recently decided that she wanted to become a fire dancer when she finished school, so we spent our days devising homemade equipment.

This is a fire poi. It consists of a flaming ball on a cable, which is then spun and twirled about. Not the best picture, but we were mostly taking videos. We probably should have practicing the twirling bit before lighting them on fire, but we were a bit eager to make it more exciting. This video is an excellent example of how awesome it can be, once you get good. Unfortunately, we're not that good yet. We also had to redesign our poi, as the cable was too thin and broke.

Next we tried a fire staff-- more or less, a quarterstaff with both ends on fire. Ideally, someday we would like to have a full dance quarterstaff duel routine that we can do.

It worked quite well. We're considering trying a shorter version, although that might make it difficult to actually have a duel with them. Still testing that. For now, I'm mostly trying to get better at wielding the quarterstaff while it's not on fire. I admit, I go to the backyard to practice it...I'm a little paranoid about looking like the Star Wars kid before I'm good.

Zhenya and Robert both also learned how to breathe fire with some success. I did not feel particularly led to try it myself, because while the substances they used were relatively safe, they were also rather disgusting to have in your mouth. 

I decided to content myself with being the photographer. I rather liked the little fire seahorse in this shot:

In the circus mindset, we also purchased and began practicing walking on a slackline--kind of like a tight rope, but is a wider strap that is meant to be more slack. At this point, I am fairly consistently able to walk its length forwards, and occasionally able to do so backwards. I'm also working on being able to twirl a poi (not on fire, yet) while on it, and maybe even play a song:

For his part, Tiernan thinks it's great fun, although we haven't let him at the fire yet. He also keeps on wanting to try the slackline, or better yet, have us carry him across. Still working on that one.

New Hobby :: Project Herb Garden

I'll go ahead and admit that I'm one of those people who go through hobbies like teenage girls these days go through hair colors.  There is a reason that I haven't been on the computer much lately...the pleasant weather sent me hearkening back to my childhood and days spent gardening with my mom. Putting my first failed attempt at growing things behind me--as evidenced by the bare planter in this picture--I planned out a small herb garden. I found that cedar fence boards were far cheaper than other options, so I bought them and set about designing and building a raised bed.

Robert is quite supportive of edible gardening, and I love working with fresh herbs, although cost usually prevents me from buying them in the produce aisle.

I liked how it called upon my other hobby of woodworking to accomplish.

Tiernan is a little suspicious of my power tools. I try to teach him their names, but so far they're all 'bbbrrrmm' to him.

And this is all that was leftover of my wood. Pretty efficient, eh?

The finished box. Since the boards are only 5/8th thick, I added support bars to keep them from bowing under the weight of the dirt.

Countryside Nursery was having a fall sale, so I bought several herbs there. 

I was especially excited to find this Bay Laurel. I use bay leaves all the time in my soups. I remember seeing huge bay hedges in Russia, but since they are sensitive to the cold, I'd never seen one stateside.

I also planted some seeds that Becca gave me for my birthday. I'm using a clear Tupperware tub as a miniature greenhouse. I planted cilantro, oregano, dill, and a flower mix.

Tiernan has loved the extra time playing outside. We've reversed roles on who wants to stay out the longest, though...where I used to be dragging him back in against his will, now I'm coaxing him to stay out a little longer.

I thought I'd be able to do it all in one weekend, but I ran into trouble with getting soil to fill the bed. It was way too expensive to buy bagged dirt from Lowe's, so I ended up waiting until this past Saturday to go to the Natural Gardener, a nursery out on Old Bee Caves Road. There, Robert was able to help me bag our own bulk soil, enabling us to fill the bed for half the cost.

I turned over the grass and covered it with black plastic to ensure it would not be growing up through my herbs. Then I filled the bed with the dirt and compost we got at the nursery.

Then it was just a matter of transplanting the herbs and adding a mulch border. The herb bed contains three varieties of oregano, sage, chives, three kinds of thyme, lavender, and peppermint.

I reclaimed my planter for the cilantro, basil, and bay. These are more tender than the others, so when it gets cold I'll be able to bring them inside.

The seeds have begun germinating! As of this morning, everything except the cilantro was up.

It was important to me that the garden be very visible and convenient to get to--I feel like my planter at the apartment failed because I could never see it to remember to water it. It just so happened that the sunniest spot in our yard was right outside the kitchen door, and in full view out the window of my seat at the dinner table, so I'm happy.

He loves the dirt. Don't worry; I replaced his play place with another planter I wasn't using. 

Yet to be planted is the Cuban oregano, parsley, and rosemary. The former two will be going in a window box I'm building to go on the kitchen window sill, and the rosemary will be going out front.